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I was ruminating today on the differences between success and failure. Failure is hard, it can disappoint you, it can knock your self-confidence and cause you to wonder if you are following the right path for your life. But after failure there are only two options. First you can give up and if you think about it where does that get you. It simply has you failing again day after day. So the other choice is to have a stiff drink (or ten), have a good cry, listen to some stupid sappy depressing music and the next day pick yourself up, dust yourself off, be thankful for the lessons you have learned (admittedly the hard way) and go at it again.

Success on the other hand is trickier. On the surface it looks great you have achieved your goal, and no matter how large or small, that is a tremendous accomplishment. But there are harder sides to success. Firstly you have to want what you have achieved. This may seem obvious… “I have worked so hard for it, of course I want it!!” but to honestly answer this question you have to follow the path for a while, experience living the life. Success brings many things with it, be it a husband, or money, or fame or a million and one other things, but each one can act as a tie holding you in place. If you succeed at something but are not happy, be brave, create new dreams and goals to achieve. Never be afraid to change your life, it almost always works out for the best and if it doesn’t, change it again and eventually you will find happiness.

Success is also difficult because of friends. People speak of “a friend in need as a friend indeed” and I agree entirely, those people who stay behind you in times of trouble are true friends. People also say “go out and be brave if you fail I will still be here for you”, but they never say I will still be here and I will still be your friend if you succeed. That is a rarer gift. Surround yourself with friends who are happy to see you succeed, not ones that revel in your failure or hurt you with their jealousy and be one yourself, it is hard when things are difficult for you and a friend achieves their goals but take time to remember jealousy is pointless it only damages your friendship, your turn will come but in the mean time a friend is happy and deserves your congratulations and joy. A friend in good times and in bad that’s what you should look for, and strive to be everyday.

Your loving mother


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